Things are not going well at school. What can I do?

When things don't go well at school, it can be annoying for you. You are less comfortable in your skin. It is important that you do not walk around alone with this, but ask for help. On this page you can read what can help you in that situation.

Why is it not going well?

There can be several reasons why things are not going well at school. You may be less able to concentrate or learning is difficult. Or are there other things going on. For example, you have a fight with a classmate or a teacher. Or you are being bullied. That is what the page What can I do if I am being bullied?

But there may also be other reasons why things are not going well at school. On JouwGGD.nl external link read more about specific situations that can be difficult.

The question now is what you can do best in your situation. We have listed some steps for you that can help.

Step 1: Talk to others about how you feel

When things are not going well at school, it is good to talk about it with people you trust: with your parents, friends or your mentor, teacher, internal counselor or care coordinator at school. Tell them you are concerned and how you feel. Just sharing your feelings can bring relief.

But talking about your feelings is sometimes difficult. On the page Talk about how you feel you will find information and tips.

Talking to your parents or guardians is important. It's nice if we manage to think together about what helps. But if your home situation is complicated, that can be difficult. On the website of JongPIT external linkyou will find tips on how to talk to your parents about difficult situations.

You can also choose to talk to someone you don't know. You might like that better. You can contact D e Kindertelefoon for this external link, Youth Help Online external linkor Chat with Fier external link. You can always talk to them in confidence about things that are bothering you or on your mind.

With De Kindertelefoon you can chat for free and anonymously on the website every day from 11:00 AM to 9:00 PM external linkor call external linkvia 0800 - 0432. There is also a forum external linkwhere you can share experiences with peers. Contact with De Kindertelefoon is anonymous, so you do not have to say your name or where you live. When you call De Kindertelefoon, a volunteer listens to you and provides information if you wish. This way you can find a solution together.

Step 2: Why is it not going well?

If things are not going well at school, you probably want to change that. It is therefore important to clarify what the cause is. Sometimes you know that very well yourself. Often a conversation with someone you trust can also help. Together you look at what the causes can be and why you feel that way.

You can also always contact your doctor. They can help you further to find out why things are not going well.

Step 3: What Do You Need?

Now that you have a better understanding of why things are not going well at school, decide together what is needed to change the situation. This way you can make sure that you are doing better and that you feel better about yourself. It's nice to get your parents involved if you haven't already. Then they know what is going on and they can support you.

Sometimes things are a bit more complicated and the help of parents, friends or people at school is not enough to find out why things are not going well. Or sometimes you know what's going on, but your school can't give you the help you need. Your mentor or care coordinator can always refer you to someone who can help you further, such as a social worker.

So it may take more effort to find the right help, but realize that it is always good to ask for help.